Could teen be depressed?
Q. I never thought this would happen to me, but could I be experiencing depression? I’m a first-year college student and I thought I’d be happy at this point in my life. I’m at a college I selected carefully. I like most of my classes, I’ve made some friends. I feel like I’m managing this “adulting” thing pretty well. But I feel sad off and on, and sometimes the feeling is so deep and so empty I ponder how I’ll keep going on if this continues. I’m not saying I’m suicidal, but I will admit for the first time in my life I catch myself thinking – maybe not being alive would ease this emptiness and would that be better? Is this just normal adjustment to a life change or am I flirting with actual depression? Can I handle it myself? What do I do? – 18-year-old
Mary Jo’s Response: You are brave to write to me. Thank you for your trust. You are not alone; there’s no need to handle this without support. Let’s talk about depression. Before we do, please let me share the number for crisis – 988. You may call or text this number day or night, without cost. Someone will answer and listen.
The National Institute for Mental Health lists the following common signs and symptoms of depression:
Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” mood
Feelings of hopelessness or pessimism
Feelings of irritability, frustration‚ or restlessness
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness
Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities
Fatigue, lack of energy, or feeling slowed down
Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions
Difficulty sleeping, waking too early in the morning, or oversleeping
Changes in appetite or unplanned weight changes
Physical aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems without a clear physical cause that do not go away with treatment
Thoughts of death or suicide or suicide attempts
It’s important to remember that depression can happen to anyone and is not always linked to an experience or trauma. Trust what you’re feeling. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Yes, you are handling this life change well. Everyone has moments when support is key.
I recommend:
Family. You don’t mention your parents/family, but I believe our best support system is typically the one to which we are born. With a few exceptions, family helps. Reach out to them and share your feelings.
Counseling. I’m sure your college has a counseling service. Make an appointment. Do not fear judgment. It’s OK to seek help.
Remember the hotline number of 988. Take suicidal thoughts seriously and reach out. Good luck.
Have a question? Send it to Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski’s email podmj@healthyteens.com.