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Seeking guidance on difficult conversation

Q. Please help me find the words to tell my mom I want to remain at college over the summer. Let me explain. This is my sophomore year. Unlike many freshmen, I loved school from the start. My mom always says she is proud of me. She’s a great mother and I know she wants the best for me. ...

Discuss boundaries with respect

Q. Can I have a boyfriend without having sex? All my friends tell me you need to do it to keep someone, but I don’t think I’m ready. I have a new boyfriend. And I do not want to tell him why I’m not ready. I know that sounds strange. I guess I should be comfortable talking with him about ...

Tackling sports performance anxiety

Q. I’m not bragging but I’m a great athlete. I work hard at it. I play a school sport every season – football in the fall, basketball over winter, and baseball in the spring. I’ve been involved with sports as long as I can remember. I played soccer as a four-year old! I’m a junior now ...

Is age 12 too young for a boyfriend?

Q. My mom says I’m too young to have a boyfriend. But I really like someone and he likes me. I’m not stupid. I know I’m too young for some things, like sex. But I’m not too young to have a boyfriend if all we do is hang out at school. My mom said to ask you. Please do me a solid and say ...

Honor trust of child abuse survivors

Q. I have a serious question. I’ve been with my girlfriend for a little over 6 months. She just told me she was sexually abused when she was 10. At first, I was shocked. I’ve never known anyone who lived through something like that, although I know it can happen. I am so glad she told me. ...

Ask Mary Jo celebrates 20 years

I wrote my first Ask Mary Jo column in January 2005. In honor of those 20 years, I’m responding to a few of the questions I’ve received about writing this column. Q. What do you do when you receive a question from a teen? Mary Jo’s Response: I always respond with the best answer I can ...