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‘Don’t do what ifs’

Last week’s question inspired some follow up.Q. I read your October 24th column about the 14-year-old who disliked dad’s new girlfriend. It resonated with me. I also lost a mother when I was young. I’m in my 30s now. My dad found someone when I was a teen, just like the young questioner. ...

Dealing with change can be difficult

Q. My dad has a girlfriend. I don’t like her. I know I’m not giving her a chance, but I don’t want her in our lives. My mom died three years ago of cancer. I don’t like to talk about it. It was horrible. Dad and I were just fine for a while. Then last year he started with this woman. I ...

Regaining trust challenging in relationships

Q. Should I try to regain trust with my husband? I went for my annual gyne exam and was told I have an STD. I’ve been with him since college. He was my first partner. We’ve been married 12 years. We have kids. When I told him about the STD, he accused me of cheating. I’ve not been with ...

What to say – and not say in a relationship

Q. Will you talk about what not to say in a relationship? My significant other annoyed me the other day, so I told him, “You’re annoying me.” He said, “I’m not being annoying.” How ridiculous is that? I know if I’m being annoyed. How can he try to tell me he’s not annoying me? ...

Finding your place at school

Q. Why do kids need to go to schools where they live? That seems unfair to me. I know kids my age who go to private schools. They get more attention from teachers and get to take classes my school doesn’t offer, like real art and drama. I know there are private schools for the arts, but I’m ...

Set standards for teen phone use

Q. Will you help settle a disagreement between my daughter and me? I say screen time on phones or tablets is detrimental. I believe such devices should only be used sparingly, to call home if band practice is canceled or when searching facts. She says she is an A student with good social skills ...